Online presence  

aflower2c 45F  
6701 posts
10/10/2019 1:37 pm
Online presence

As someone has been jotting down blurds quite on the regular, on a couple of sites, comes with the potential for trolls and other assorted types.

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Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.

aflower2c 45F  
14262 posts
10/10/2019 1:39 pm

Missing words and stuffss πŸ˜›πŸ‘…πŸ†πŸ’¦πŸ—


As someone that has been jotting down blurds quite on the regular, on a couple of sites, comes with the potential for trolls and other assorted types.

I am a generous user of the block button, even used on regular visitors that need a friggen time out because he would just push n push even with warnings to cool it.
(Its just remembering to unblock them when the time out is over... i suck at that, but then not reeaally caring. Lol.) I even block people that should have blocked my content first, just to save them the few extra clicks, yanno cos I'm nice like that.

Although the one type I just can't wrap my thoughts around are those angry, bitter, mad, frustrated, men that clearly are not looking for women over 40 venting at me.
I am pretty open to the fact that I am writing about my experiences and my thoughts/emotions, yadda yadda yada. I may offer suggestions on how to approach ME but that is not #AllWomen. And use my advice, offers, suggestions, with a grain of salt, as these are my experiences not #allPeople. Lol

I posted a few quick blogs a few weeks ago, and I spent more time putting guys in time out and blocking others because of the personal attacks and unwanted grandstanding on my page. I get it, I really do, you cant fimd your harem of monogamous women that are under 25 and thin, so you need to vent at a 45 yr old native woman looking for dating...right I definitely see the connection there. πŸ™„

I don't think I have ever messaged a man who was clearly not looking for someone like me and demand that he give me a try, or that his preferences are wrong. But please use tact when saying your preferences you just come across as more approachable person when you say you are 'looking for active, hwp, and healthy' vs 'no fatties'.
Kinda like me saying no thanks to someone who doesn't meet some basic preferences instead of going off about 'no fuckin shorties!'.

Maybe its because of my words that I attract those that feel the need to vent at a woman. Or that I am looking for certain things and I shouldn't be allowed to have those preferences bec of age or looks or whatever arbitrary reason.

Luvin the double standards getting tossed at me in the last few years though. Insert double eye roll.
Lately I'm getting the gears over choosing to stay single instead of having to be in any relationship just so I'm "not single".
Yet 45 yr old men that stay single are often praised as being independent, hi-5, ...
Yet people ask me, what's broken, like my value as person is only determined when I'm in a relationship.

Those that receive the venting commentors, do you have an idea on why especially if you are clearly not the kind of person they would even approach anyway?
Ir are they just bored people venting away at internet strangers?

Purely just for interest or light conversation, I am really not looking for a heated debate on the current social media driven and divided culture.
Thanks, management

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.

Brownie202 62F  
1403 posts
10/10/2019 2:13 pm

I also get messages from angry men. Mostly it is because I do not want young ones. They tell me something like I should be interested in any man because of my age. They need to get over themselves. They are not all that that like they think. If they was they would have all the sex partners they could handle. Wouldn't be so frustrated so have the need to say what they do.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.

aflower2c replies on 10/10/2019 2:43 pm:
I get the snark typically from men over 60 when they leave comments on my dating profile pictures. The young guys (below my lower limit of 26) sometimes get persistent, I usually end up blocking them.

benhereagain 62M
46 posts
10/10/2019 2:13 pm

Hi I'm an older guy and I get young girls who supposedly want old guys ! No chance they Just want your points 4259156

aflower2c replies on 10/10/2019 2:41 pm:
Not quite what I was referring to, I get fake profiles all the time on dating sites because they want me to keep paying.

Im talking about actual people complaining about your preferences, or profile, or blog. Ir they go on n on about not giving everyone a chance yet they themselves also have specific preferences. πŸ™„

Granny872 67F  
1460 posts
10/10/2019 2:27 pm

Those guys are bullies or cowardly or Incel or all of the above.

Not worth even responding to I M O.

None of us are getting out alive, so let's at least try to be nice to each other while we're here.

aflower2c replies on 10/10/2019 2:39 pm:
I only engage nicely once, the second time they get a warning to chill out, third time I hust block. Some I have definitely blocked begore finish reading thier ranty rants. Lol

RavenGB 58M
941 posts
10/10/2019 2:34 pm

The internet exposes us all to people that we'd never encounter in our off-line lives, and wouldn't wish to, in many cases. In a way, it is very egalitarian, but these folk feel they have a right to behave towards you in manners that one would never accept in "real" situations.

Of course, it also allows people to find kindred spirits (usually very distant!) - modern life, eh?

aflower2c replies on 10/10/2019 2:38 pm:
The internet has made the world a smaller place, yet in miles they are typically and in reality really really far away.

EnigmaInitiative 51F  
1329 posts
10/10/2019 2:55 pm

Eh, I've become more and more liberal with my block button. I didnt used to be like this, but it has become obvious that I need to in order to protect myself from people who lack self control.

Happy Thursday

aflower2c replies on 10/10/2019 3:10 pm:
I figure, remove one, another will be by shortly.
At one time I wanted everyone to enjoy my stuff, since learned that will never happen anyway. Lol

aflower2c 45F  
14262 posts
10/10/2019 3:12 pm

Oh, and yes I am aware that writing and being online is completely an option that I take knowing full well the risks.
But y'alls are the only source of outside contact (and limited interaction on the other blog sites)... kinda sad eh. Lol

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.

backpocket13 42M
8347 posts
10/10/2019 4:39 pm

Hey Flower Girl,
.........I feel like I’m constantly apologizing for my gender,........What can I say, most men are idiots,........I may even be one myself,.......An Idiot, not a man, no I’m definitely not a man,........If I was I’d be constantly apologizing for my gender,........Hey Wait! We’re back where we started!.......Ahhh Well, have a Great Weekend Sweetheart!............
Sinfully Yours, backpocket13

aflower2c replies on 10/10/2019 4:53 pm:
Some days I really wonder how and when people actually meet. Especially with the huge negative rift in everything right now, very palatable on dating sites which makes it even more difficult to find someone as everyone has thier guard up.

BiggLala 47F  
26953 posts
10/10/2019 4:53 pm

do you have an idea on why especially if you are clearly not the kind of person they would even approach anyway?
-I think the part I underlined is why. Most men don't like when women they're not attracted to have strong opinions, or express them. They'll agree (or calmly, sweetly, mildly disagree) with women they're attracted to, even if those women say the same as the women they're not into...don't wanna risk making the hot chick mad yanno?

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aflower2c replies on 10/10/2019 5:03 pm:
Lol, yes! That did cross my mind!

aflower2c 45F  
14262 posts
10/10/2019 9:17 pm

Geesh. Please excuse the typos!
Typing on a cell phone (without reading glasses even though I should probably mosy likely really should be wearing the readers) and having a broken screen (bec little miss flower is miffed about having to play the disposable game with material things.) makes typing that much more of challenge when its broken right in the spot where most words show up...

And I swear that samsung plants a bug in cell phones so it starts doung random things like changing the spelling of words when you hit enter. As I am pretty certain my last 2 Samsung had Similar bugs, plus other things that force you to buy a new cell.
Anyhoo. Believe me my ocd and perfectionism really wants to correct those simple spelling mistakes, but alas you can not edit comments.

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.

Southfrkfshr 57M
30 posts
10/11/2019 4:29 am

I just like reading Blogs great entertainment! I don't comment much.
But its good to keep informed.

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