Male Privilege
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Posted:Feb 13, 2020 1:11 pm
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privilege I believe is the governing force of modern social infrastructure. It is the thing that elevates males and limits women the most and runs rampent through society
It means being able to go out and do whatever you want whenever you want but I never realized that I had that freedom until I lost it. It is the confidence one gets from knowing there is no threat from pursuers who see me as a sexual object ...constantly. Men may be sexually pursued, but it’s rarely considered a threat. Male privilege means you never have to consider how your attire may attract unwanted advances in any given venue; it means you don't worry about signals you are emitting to members of the opposite sex or ever being criticized for looking to inviting or not feminine enough. Male privilege means you can say what you want when you want with little concern about perceived sexual tone or innuendos; women on the other hand are taught to always be on guard to be perceived as virtuous. After all it is women who carry within their bodies the fertile garden of life. If a man has an affair his friends may giggle, may scold him or even become angry at his infidelity but a woman is labeled a while running the of becoming pregnant. Telling sexist jokes makes a humorous but a female promiscuous. Women have reputations to protect but a man .. a man has privilege.
Male privilege or lack thereof extends into everyone's everyday life. Women are generally perceived as the more vulnerable sex and so must always be aware of their surroundings. Its not that they are more vulnerable, but perceived as such and that is the danger. In the early morning or late evening a women needs to be careful going out alone or where there are no other people around; a man seldom thinks twice. Where a girl is apprehensive walking to her car through a large parking lot alone; a guy will likely not have a care in the world. Women feel anxious about driving alone at night, going to night school alone, attending twilight church alone and God forbid they ever go for a walk alone at night or participate in any outdoor twilight activity alone. It is taboo for females, but a privilege for males. Women carry mace/pepper spray/tazors/guns; Men carry Male Privilege!
The interesting thing for me is that before I transitioned I never worried about any of that, but post transition I find I am always looking over shoulder. It’s not because I became weak and helpless, I still have the same physical capabilities (well almost) but the way men treat me is different. I no longer have the “hall pass” I used to. I find I’m constantly on guard and lately I have decided I should carry mace. Why? Because now I present as female and that seems to be an open invitation to assume I am defenseless; where I could walk through a parking lot late at night before I no longer have that privilege. Sometimes I feel like I have a target on back or a sign that says “mug if you want to”. There seems to be the perception that if female self ventures out unprotected then I am encouraging confrontation. I live alone too and I find it is a little unnerving at times. A few years back I wouldn’t have had a care. A women living alone in the woods is vulnerable, but a man it is a privilege.
privilege doesn't end there. opinion gets accepted before female. When it's time to solve a problem and there is a need for creative ideas the tendency is for male ideas to be accepted over female. In the professional world where men and women work in mixed gender teams it's the males who will typically lead, make the decisions and whose credibility is given privilege. me this is especially interesting. I am employed at a technical company and have worked with the same people before and after transition. What’s funny is that the same people who respected input and ideas during brain storming sessions and team efforts before, now defer to other males. When I make an input into a problem-solving discussion there might be a slight pause, and then the discussion continuous as if I had said nothing. It is frustrating but at the same time amusing. ideas come from the same brain but now are dismissed as irrelevant simply because I’m female. I see this same thing happen to other females in the same way. It’s sad but not uncommon. I don’t even think men realize they’re doing it, I know I didn’t.
Women in the work place are also dismissed as second to male in knowledge. More often than not in a mixed crowed the female struggles equal recognition of technician knowledge; She may even have more experience while the less experienced ’s knowledge is given precedence. The is granted that Privilege. In technical discussions where the first person’s knowledge is beyond the scope of one of the other parties involved, the first person’s word will be accepted quicker if they are , in fact a female’s knowledge of a subject may never fully be accepted. What I’m saying is that a man will not accept new knowledge from a woman as easily as from another male. Yes I have seen this from both sides too. Where I used to give technical advice/explanation with easy acceptance, now men often turn their head to someone near as if to ask “is she right?” ; and I’m the person they used to turn their head to get verification from … only last year!
Because men are assumed to be better at business and technical decisions they get the benefit of the doubt easier than women and that allows them the privilege of greater freedom to express their capabilities. When a person is allowed to show their stuff they get the opportunity to advance quickly in their careers. Meanwhile a woman is more likely to be held in check her supervisor. Women have to prove themselves constantly while men have the privilege of the benefit of the doubt. Women’s careers get stymied while men’s take off. In short women get micro managed, men get to manage. I’m not saying women don’t get into management, they do but it is harder a female and takes longer and I think they work harder it. Even so in the end the man will draw the higher check.
There are probably many more examples of privilege but I think this is the crux of it. It is the idea that Man = strong; hard and assertive; smart; and capable and Women = less strong; soft and loving; not knowledgeable; and dependent. Men need to protect and provide women so women need to defer to the men. The fact that I have inhabited a persona on both sides of the equation is proof to me of how ridicules it is. I mean how can I be knowledgeable one day and not the next; hard and assertive then soft and loving; capable yet dependent? I am not that different of a person either side I’m on. The brain I use is the same. What I like to tell people is that you have only ever known me as female, you just couldn’t see it. Now that they can the game has changed. This is blessing in life; to see the absurdity of human behavior from both sides. Humans are absurd!
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What happened to Tranny FriendFinder?
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Posted:Feb 13, 2020 9:16 am
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 6:41 pm
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I was on Tranny FriendFinder a while back and found it very friendly and easy to use. I took a year off life events and now I'm back... only I seem to have lost all ability to communicate with people. It used to be free, now they are trying to extorting from me just like Ashley Madison or any of the other bogus sex sites.
I chose this site over those others because this place was about hooking up and sex but didn't have such a limiting agenda. Tranny FriendFinder has always been a good reality check because if you wanted it to happen you could make it real! I mean why do they think this site has 25 million daily hits compared to AMs 4? I can't make any sense of it except somebody decided it was time to take the profits and run.
I realize that it to run a website but there is a limit to finances and whatever they (Tranny FriendFinder management) got from having me before here (as bait I suppose) they just lost it... because I can't to . I'm pretty good at and sucking but sorry to say I can't or don't need to it.
Maybe blogging and posting pictures I can get up to receive a free gold membership, maybe. If not then I give up. In the mean time lets party!
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I miss you Todd
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Posted:Feb 13, 2020 8:32 am
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 6:41 pm
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I lay here prostrate on the earth, future laid out before me. I need only pull myself to my feet and proceed, yet even that simple task seems dauntingly impossible. Such a simple thing for even a baby, and I could proceed with gleeful joyous life, yet here I remain; flat on the ground; unable to sidestep even the simplest emotion. What then am I to do?
Today I stood at the stern of the ship watching the sea pass; the swirling of water churned out by the propellers and watching as we swiftly abandoned each bubble, each foamy cascade; My life in a ships wake. But it wasn’t long before I had to move along; before emotion overwhelmed me again. Keep it together was all I could think.
Overall I am happy with my life. I have had an interesting if not adventurous one. Most people I meet have no idea the depth and scope of my adventures, but if I try revealing my experiences they become skeptical; I become skeptical.
At some there has to be someone I can relate to else how can I continue? With Todd, I thought I had met that person, but he is gone now ... while I continue... To where... I have no idea.
There comes a in everyone’s life when the realization of unavoidable loneliness strikes the heart. I’ve seen it manifest itself many times, many ways in the lives of friends and family; It’s a natural consequence of aging. The question though, is it fate?
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My Church
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Posted:Feb 13, 2020 8:16 am
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 6:41 pm
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Today I attended a church ... the first in many years. It was not like any I’d ever been too, no no, it was an anti religion and in it they asked those who would like to be “un-baptized” to come forward and be released from any past baptism ! I thought about this for a while, and after I had thought about it long enough I decided I did not need to be released from any such sacred scar because I don’t believe in any of it in the first place. Don’t get me wrong, I am deeply committed to adhering to those teachings that bring peace and good will to human kind (weather it be Jesus or who ever) but I firmly believe they have nothing to do with any established religious organizations or their members.
So instead I asked to be baptized into a new church! Yes , the first unorthodox church of kink (FUCK). Then as it’s first member I get to set the doctrine so hold on to your hats girlfriends because it’s about to get real! I hereby decree that any and all members (and there is only one) shall live in the spirit of true joy and happiness. They shall not pass judgment or engage in drama and will do unto others as they would have done unto themselves... ect. ect. In other words all the good things that are taught by other popular religions ...only none of the bull crap and mythology.
Let’s face it, we all no right from wrong, it’s easy. We know how we’d like to be treated by our peers so forget the “let’s convince others that we are the good ones /better people/ blessed more than others. Let’s just live the truth. You don’t need to go to church to be forgiven, you know full well what you did and if you feel it was wrong then you go fix it or live with it. we only get one life, there is no second chance, when your gone then so is the opportunity to do good. Do it now, there is no later
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Just another fantasy come true
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Posted:Feb 13, 2020 7:50 am
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 6:41 pm
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Last summer I was invited to an LaFortress (LF) “reunion” party. This was a private party for old friends of LF so, not being from that demographic I went as a guest ...of a guest. We drove 200 miles and I had no idea that this road trip would end up changing my life forever.
He lived 15 min from LF and had lived in the area for years, was a regular patron of the LF dungeon and even was LF live-in staff at one point. On this night he brought a sub/play partner with no intention of acquiring another; I was my usual “free agent” bottom trolling for pickup play.
We met in the kitchen while congregating in a group discussion. We were standing opposite in a semi circle of kinksters chatting when our eyes first met. I remember noticing his beautiful deep hypnotic eyes as he very cordially introduced himself. I mentioned I was alone and he responded that he was not and politely excused himself to his partner to the dungeon. I hung around the social area and finally found a play partner.
Later that evening, as he was leaving, our eyes met again from across the room and he very directly approached me while I sat in my chair. Again he introduced himself and made some very sweet and flattering complements to me. His eyes seemed to pierce my soul and I felt spell bound as he spoke; my heart fluttered. We exchanged Fet names but even then he kept his focus mainly on his playmate and did not dwell with me. Having been around the lifestyle for … lets just say for a long time … I sighed as he disappeared through the exit knowing the game, then wrote him off almost as soon as his shadow had vanished.
A week later I got an extremely sweet and apologetic message from him on fetlife. At first I took it as another BS attempt by some dude that just wanted to get laid (95% of the messages I get are this). He went on explaining how smitten he was and how desperately he'd searched for me on fet; had forgotten my fet name but was finely able to get it from another mutual friend. It was an eye roll moment for me and showed it to a friend who was sitting near by. She read it silently, then asked me if I'd looked at his profile, to which I said “Pffft! Not interested!”.
The look on her face was one of disbelief. She grabbed her laptop and proceeded to check him out on my behalf and after a few minutes told me she thought I should re consider this one, so with some trepidation I did. The more about him I read the more I thought this could actually be “the guy”! But if you know me you know I have all but given up on ever finding “the one” so it was with skepticism that I responded to his message. I was polite and hopeful in my message yet expecting this would go the same way most other encounters like this go; Infatuation --> pursuit --> capture --> DISAPPEAR.
A couple of weeks later, after doing a proper vetting and finding overwhelmingly good responses, I agreed to play with him … at my house. He offered to come negotiate a scene and then afterwords take me to Atlanta to see a play and dinner. When he arrived I was ready and wearing a tiny skin tight silky mini dress and heels. He was wearing shorts and a T and looked much rougher then the night I first met him; more like a biker or roughneck, but his demeanor was perfectly respectful. There was a little bit of second guessing my decision, but I welcomed him inside anyway and we sat on the couch to begin negotiating.
We began exchanging ideas but there was so much to cover I decided to communicate my interest and speed things up by showing him a favorite bondage video. This was an instant big hit! In fact so big he instructed me to keep watching while he went outside to get some things. When he returned he was holding several hanks of rope and instructed me to stand up and keep watching the video. We continued our discussion as I stood and watched and he began to prepare some rope. I felt the rope going around me as we negotiated but I was kinda in subspace already. His hands worked quickly and tactile sensation was almost subconscious. Before I realized it he had me in a harness and was threading a crotch rope around my labia.
He tugged the crotch rope and my eyes widened with a new consciousness. Tighter! Tighter until I gave out a yelp and my juices began dripping down my leg. I remember thinking “when/how did this happen?”. A few minutes later I found myself in the bedroom face down on the bed bound from head to foot, gagged and blind folded. I had about 3 orgasms just from the act of tying and it was then that I realized he was the one! As I lay helpless he chided me for being so stupid as to let a complete stranger into my house and bind me so completely. He used that tool to scare the crap out of me while making me orgasm over and over. I don't remember how long we played but when we finished I was wrung out!
After that scene was finished it was time to go to Atlanta so he removed the ropes … all except for the harness and crotch rope. He picked out a dress for me to wear over my rope undergarment, nothing too loud, but still sexy enough. We got in the car and began to drive and I thought at least I would have a break while we drove, but we hadn't gotten far before his hand reached over and began gently tugging the crotch leash. It wasn't long before I was in climax again. He very skillfully kept me on the edge until I was yelping and crying out uncontrollably in ecstasy. We were in traffic part of the time and he made sure that I orgasmed to the point my eyes rolled back into my head at every red light we stopped at. I was very self conscious at first but soon forgot anyone could see me. I became like jello and didn't give a shit if my own mother was watching, so at the next stoplight, just to raise the bar, he rolled my window down … so there was no question the rest of the traffic would hear. I fought with all my might to keep silent but finally lost it and let out a super screech! This pleased him immensely...
At the theater things toned down a bit but both he and I knew what was under my dress and he knew how to remind me … constantly. So for the show things were low key and the same for dinner but on the way home it was back to the repeated constant orgasms. By this time my pussy was so sensitive all he had to do was look at the rope and I'd climax. This was very new and exciting for me! NO one had ever taken that kind of interest in me before. We arrived home and I was thinking it was time to go to bed, we had had a long and very satisfying day. It was like 1:00am and I was exhausted but that was not to be, there was more fun to be had! Within 30 min of arriving home we had consumed a glass of wine,caught our breath so into the bedroom I went. He followed a minute later... I was completely bound again the minute after that.
The fucking, sucking and bondage orgasms continued until day break. At that point all he had to do was touch me and I'd orgasm, and then orgasm again after he withdrew his touch , and then again after that! When he fell asleep I was still in a constant state of arousal, something I had never known before. When we finally awoke sometime after noon it was time to eat. After breakfast he started again. All in all I think our scene lasted 36 hours. When he left me he made sure to let me know that my pussy and tits and everything about me now belonged to him. Those words almost made me orgasm again and in my soul I knew he was right. All I could say in reply was “yes Sir”
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My wish list
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Posted:Feb 12, 2020 8:44 am
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 6:41 pm
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I would like be objectified by a group of clean sexy people who want use as their party sex toy. I need to have all of my holes filled multiple times. I am very submissive and will accept almost any command except rimming and ATM ( I have a poo aversion) . Mu pussy and ass are very tight and my mouth is always ready
Train me to your liking. Make me stay on my knees with my mouth open and tongue out while making constant eye contact. Tie me up or shackle me down as a line up of hard cocks empty's their loads into my holes one after the other. Use me until I am incoherently craving the next cock or pussy without hesitation. Tits down ass up for all to use.
I am ready...
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To whom it may concern
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Posted:Feb 12, 2020 8:23 am
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2020 7:47 am
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I have been away from Tranny FriendFinder for a while now and i see I have lost my Gold status. I cannot communicate with you on here at the moment so if you want to get in touch with me ask for my other social media places.
That being said I am open to multiple person fun and am somewhat of a submissive slut, so please don't ask, Just tell me what you want me to do! I am hoping to find a group scene where i am the sex object/toy for all to use as needed. I have no experience at this, but I am a fast learner.
I hope I can get my gold status back soon, until then ... keep smiling!
Jenifer
p.s. I love sucking dick and I swallow! jus sayin
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Ahhhh.... the anticipation
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Posted:Oct 28, 2017 3:07 am
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 6:41 pm
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so many dudes, so little action. A friend once told me i'm too easy to which i replied I know deer ... but I'm cheep. That was supposed to be a joke but I'm finding out in reality that being cheep and easy dosen't even help. I have a couple suitors but no action yet and I'm starting to wonder if playing hard to get could improve my attractiveness. LOL
One day we will look back and laugh, just not today
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My Tranny FriendFinder search
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Posted:Oct 3, 2017 2:51 pm
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2020 8:41 am
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today reality finally hit home. After messaging with a guy here on Tranny FriendFinder a couple days he finally demands to meet me. I am not really feeling it but he convinced me so we make a date. No sooner then we decide on a place and time he goes all silent. I mean up till that he was all over me insisting I give him a chance, then nothing. So today, the day of our rendezvous, I still haven't heard anything and I give him a tap. I message him "good morning" and when I check back a little later he has deactivated his . yeah ...WTF?
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