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classicalrebel4 68M
1755 posts
8/1/2020 1:15 pm

 I wonder if the people who ask what your fantasies are will be able to deal with the reality of being with you.

My fantasy: being with someone who wants to be with me.
Please don't let me be misunderstood.


merlot5555 67M/57F  
1472 posts
8/1/2020 2:33 pm

 ...create your own realities and the fantasies will write themselves.....


Wok2016 42M  
599 posts
8/1/2020 3:15 pm

 I think as much as anything they're just gauging your freak-level to know how to proceed. And possibly looking for ideas for the next time someone else asks them the same question.

My fantasy is probably a group play/orgy situation, where I can watch, give, and receive in more or less equal measure. And for people to be nice to one another. Either or is fine for the time being!


New2Midlo 54M
1075 posts
8/1/2020 6:52 pm

 The few who've asked that question of me have come away disappointed, as well, for the same reasons. Sure, I had the threesome with two women fantasy, when I was younger, but that's long since faded. Instead, I prefer to try making my partner's fantasies come true, which is what brings me the most satisfaction.

In my experience, most women don't feel comfortable sharing their fantasies until they trust you enough with their vulnerability.


storm8732 67M

8/2/2020 2:08 pm

 I agree with you. Maybe its an age thing.... I know i dont have fantasies..... I do enjoy sex. The best part for me is find out what my partner enjoys and giving them as pleasure as possible. If they want to try something new to them then thats great..... I Dont know that i would call it a fantasy though.


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
8/2/2020 3:38 pm

 Intimacy, that's what I really enjoy most of all. Good sex usually follows.

I guess I have a few 'fantasies', perhaps of things I'd like to try with my partner. But I think most fantasies should probably remain fantasies, because I doubt the reality would live up to what you've conjured up in your own mind?

Good post Mc12!


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
8/3/2020 8:57 am
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freespirit11501 53M
1542 posts
8/5/2020 1:49 pm

 I think for most, it is probably a conversation starter and a way to gauge someone's sexual compatibility. I agree that a "fantasy" implies something that is improbable to occur, however, asking about someone's fantasy can also serve as a glimpse into someone's imagination. I love exploring a partner's sexy mind as much as her body, but you are absolutely right, there needs to be a comfort level reached in order to fully explore one's sexual imagination freely.
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CedarsPrince 44M
1608 posts
8/8/2020 8:16 am

 So what is the goal of the fantasy question? Make conversation? Get aroused by someone else's fantasy? Proclaim you can make it come true? Get ideas for yourself? Figure out if this person is kinky enough for you?

It could be any one of those things. It depends on the person. For me, if the topic comes up, it let's me know more about the person's personality. However, most fantasies remain a fantasy so it doesn't that much to me compared to other aspects of their personality and attitude.


proteus_2a 58M
7979 posts
8/26/2020 12:28 pm

 Of all the times I've been asked that question, very few times have I felt there was a deeper connection , upon which I could expand and elaborate...

( not that there were particular ones, it was rather being inspired - or not - by the specific person )

Guess the jest of your dilemma,is chemistry my lady ...
Cheers - P


merlot5555 67M/57F  
1472 posts
9/1/2020 12:40 pm
    Quoting merlot5555:
    ...create your own realities and the fantasies will write themselves.....
...and then sometimes.....sometimes, you just slip into an unplanned role play... each expecting the other to blink... but being strong willed and not wanting to be the first to blink, each kept raising the stakes..... and that's the stuff legends are made of.... for in the end, they both smiled and chuckled....and whispered to each other... "best partner ever"....

....I like the way you think too....


loneleix 64M
978 posts
9/4/2020 12:46 pm

 After reading this and the answers within I am wondering if "fantasies" is a term that everyone understands the same way.

Having said that I believe it takes a great deal of trust to share deeply felt sexual desires. I can't imagine asking someone I just me what their fantasies are. Like many things having to do with sexual intimacy, it takes time, patience, and a great deal of trust to get to the point of understanding how desire works for anyone else. Even those are not guarantees it will happen but they do seem to be requisite requirements.


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